Hantaran

They say hantaran is a must in every weddings. Well it really depends on which wedding and it REALLY depends on the individual/family. As for me, hantaran (dulang) has never been something pivotal for my family. Even during my engagement we didnt even plan to have a hantaran dulang. Only at the last minute his mom wanted to give this and that. So being a Malay, it wouldnt seem nice not to be giving anything in return. We ended up giving him 3dulangs which consists of (sirih junjung, kain and cupcakes) which wasnt even decorated properly (ooopsss). And his family gave me 5 dulang( fruits, kain, ring, sirih junjung, cake).

It was so weird and awkward. But there was no issue from both families :). Alhamdulillah. No intention of spoiling the custom and tradition, but we do it OUR WAY :). Yes people might make a remark, but honey...adat is just an adat.

As for our wedding, we came up with a plan for the hantaran. Hopefully everything will go as planned :)